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Book Club: Discussion on “You’re Not Listening: What You’re Missing and Why It Matters” by Kate Murphy

April 8, 2021 @ 5:00 pm - 6:00 pm PDT

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Presented by

Delight Roberts, an avid book reader and book club leader

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Online via Zoom only:

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Date: Thursday, April 8, 2021

Time:  5pm-6pmPT/7pm-8pmCT/8pm-9pmET


Join Delight to discuss the book “You’re Not Listening: What You’re Missing and Why It Mattersby Kate Murphy.

Delight says: “Can you imagine sitting next to a stranger on a plane and spending the ride talking about yourself–only to discover upon landing that your seatmate was John Glenn?  This was an anecdote from “You’re Not Listening and Why it Matters” and Kate Murphy shows us all the ways that we’re missing out because we’re not listening. Murphy’s research explains why most of us are not listening, the reasons that we should–and the importance of showing up and being fully present.  This was an eye-opening book for me and I was chagrined by the number of times I had to rewind and play parts of the book again because I wasn’t truly engaged. Join us for a lively discussion where you can practice what you’ve learned and share your observations!”

About the Author:

Kate Murphy is a Houston, Texas–based journalist who has written for The New York Times, The Economist, Agence France-Presse, and Texas Monthly.


Here is the link to a good article about the book found in The New York Times:

You’re Not Listening. Here’s Why. – The New York Times (nytimes.com)

“If you’re like most people, you don’t listen as often or as well as you’d like. There’s no one better qualified than a talented journalist to introduce you to the right mindset and skillset―and this book does it with science and humor.”
-Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take

You’re Not Listening is an essential book for our times. How well we listen determines how we love, learn, and connect with one another, and in this moment when we need to hear and be heard more than ever, this thought-provoking and engaging book shows us how.”
-Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

“I was instantly hooked by Kate Murphy’s simple but profound argument–that although listening is the foundation of communication, innovation, growth, and love, few of us really know how to do it properly, or where to even start. You’re Not Listening is a captivating and enlightening book that provides readers with a road map on how to listen and why it is so important to how we connect, work, and live.”
-Kim Scott, New York Times bestselling author of Radical Candor

“This lively book makes an impassioned plea for listening–an instructive and thought-provoking book that will help readers think about the way they frame questions and responses to forge intimacy.”
Financial Times

“Fiercely topical…You’re Not Listening is an intriguing and constructive take on the problem…and a manual for better communication. Murphy’s book is intelligent and thought-provoking…. Listening is when someone take a real interest in who you are…a moment of attunement and understanding that sticks in both heads. We could all do with some of that.”
The Times (London)

“It’s time for a spot of re-education…. A fascinating guide to something we assume we do automatically, yet for the most part do very badly…. The art of listening is really the art of being human.”
The Guardian

“In an age when technology has made it easier than ever before to talk with each other, we’ve paradoxically become worse at listening. Fortunately, we have Kate Murphy to teach us how to reclaim this crucial skill. This book changed the way I think about communicating with the people who matter to me.”
-Cal Newport, New York Times bestselling author of Deep Work and Digital Minimalism

“With concrete advice and a wealth of guidelines, readers will come away with tips for a better approach, one that can be exceptionally useful, whether in the boardroom or at home. In an era dominated by incessant broadcasting and attention-seeking behavior on social media, listening offers both a salve and a solution.”

“From communication researchers to general audiences, this informative and well-documented book will prod readers to reexamine the way they listen to others, individually and collectively, and to consider the many negative repercussions of not doing so.”
-Library Journal

“The premise of this book couldn’t be more timely… inspiringly profound… Smart and playful… It feels like a reiteration of something essential… Murphy is here to remind us – entertainingly and compellingly – exactly why it matters so much, especially right now. Hear, hear.”
-The Observer

“Kate Murphy…has pinpointed an uneasy truth in her new book: we may be great at leading the conversations, but perhaps not so much being on the receiving end of them.”


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April 8, 2021
5:00 pm - 6:00 pm PDT
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Online Only
Via Zoom link provided United States